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  • 21 Tips on Keeping Your Shit Together During Depression

    There are a shitload of us who suffer from this demon for many reasons....I loved this following list...its not my own...just found it really grounding.

    1) Know that you’re not alone. Know that we are a silent legion, who, every day face the solipsism and judgement
    of Happy People Who Think We Just Aren’t Trying. There are people who are depressed, people who have been depressed,
    and people who just haven’t been hit with it yet.

    2) Understand that the Happy People are usually acting out of some genuine (albeit misguided) concern for you, that it’s
    coming from a good place, even if the advice feels like you’re being blamed for your disease. Telling you these things makes
    them feel better, even if it makes you feel like shit. (If they insist on keeping it up, see #12.)

    3) Enlist the help of a professional. See your doctor. You need to talk about the ugly shit, and there are people paid to listen
    and help you find your way to the light at the end of the tunnel.

    4) Understand that antidepressants will only do so much. They’re useful, they’ll level you out and give you the time you need
    to figure out your own path to getting well. They can be helpful. There are lots to choose from. They may not be for you, and
    even if they are, they take some time to kick in. Conversely, they may not be for you. Work with your doctor.

    5) Pick up a paintbrush, a pencil, an activity you got joy from in the past and re-explore that. Or, sign up for the thing you
    always wanted to try. There is a long history and link between depression and creativity. It’s a bright light of this condition, so
    utilize it to your best advantage.

    6) Eat nutritionally sound, regular small meals. If you’re having trouble eating, try to focus on what you’d like to eat. I went through
    a whole six week episode of tomatoes and cream cheese on a bagel twice a day. Not great, but it was something – helpful context,
    I’m a recovered anorexic. Conversely, if all you want to do is scarf down crap, try to off-ramp it by downing a V-8 and doing #9 for
    15 minutes, and see how you feel. Chucking your blood sugar all over hell’s half acre is going to make you feel worse.

    7) While you’re doing #3, get some bloodwork done. If you’re low on iron or vitamin D, or if your hormone levels are doing the
    Macarena… these can all contribute to zapping your energy or switching your mood to Bleak As Hell.

    8) If you’re in bed and the “insomnia hamsters”, as I like to call them, are on the wheel of your head, watch Nightly Business New
    s on PBS. This has the effect of Nyquil. Swap out your coffee for herbal tea. If you just cannot sleep, try the next tip….

    9) Learn how to meditate. Start by focusing on your breathing. Not sleep, not thoughts. In through the nose, out through the mouth.
    Meditation is focusing on being present in your body, not careening around in your brain. It may not be as good as sleep but it will give
    you some rest and recharge you.

    10) Face a window as often as you can – at work, at home. Look out into the world. Watch. Observe. Try to find something
    you find pretty or interesting to focus on. And, handily remember that one in five of those people out there feel the way you do.

    11) Cry. Better out than in. Sometimes it’s not convenient or career-enhancing to cry, so find a private place as best you can
    and let the tears go. Carry Kleenex and face wipes and extra concealer if you wear makeup. You can always claim allergies.

    12) Any “friend” who resolutely believes that your depression is because you’re lazy, because you’re not trying hard enough,
    who blames you for not bootstrapping out of it- that friend needs to be cut off. Polite (#2) is one thing, but there is a limit. You don’t have
    to explain, you can just not respond. You feel badly enough, you don’t need their “assistance”.

    13) Limit your time with people who drain you. You know who they are. Often you don’t have a choice- but you can put the
    meter on. And, subsequently, be aware of what you’re asking of those close to you.

    14) Everyone has shit they’ve got to deal with. What you have been saddled with is your shit. Recognize, just as you’re not
    alone, you’re also not unique. The grass may look greener, you may be jealous or envious of others who don’t have to deal with depression,
    but you likely do not know everything that’s going on with them.

    15) Let go or be dragged. This is an old Buddhist saying. It’s a very useful way to frame aspects of depression. Betrayal, anger,
    fear… letting go is a process – often a painful and difficult process - but it’s ultimately going to show you the path out of this terrible place.
    Repeating the mantra can help when you’re feeling gripped by these feelings.

    16) Wear clothes that make you feel confident. It takes as much time to put on nice clothes as it does to put on sweatpants.
    You will want to wear the sweatpants. Fight the urge. The whole “look good/feel better” campaign isn’t limited to cancer and chemotherapy.
    Or women.

    17) Avoid fictional drama and tragedy like the plague. No Grey’s Anatomy, no to The Notebook, or anything that won a Pulitzer
    prize. You’ve got enough going on In Real Life. Comedy only. Or trashy stuff. Old episodes of WonderWoman? I’ve got the box set. Mindless
    drivel, like the latest CGI blockbuster. Or clever, funny books. David Sedaris. Jenny Lawson. Fiction exists to elicit emotion, and the emotion
    you need to express most right now is laughter.

    18) Simple exercise, if you can. It can be something as simple as taking the stairs up a flight, or walking around the block. It
    doesn’t have to be elaborate, it doesn’t have to involve climbing a mountain or running a marathon. Baby steps.

    19) Depression will lie to you. Depression will try to tell you what others are thinking. That you are unloved and unworthy,
    that others think little of you or don’t care – or even wish you harm. You are not a psychic. Keep repeating that. “I am not a psychic”.
    Repeat. The only way to know what another person is thinking is to up and ask them.

    20) If you are well and truly losing this battle, reach out to someone. I’ve been the random friendly-but-not-close person who
    has fielded the occasional outreach. I like to think I’m not judgemental and generally resourceful, and others have thought the same, so
    they called and asked. You know someone like me. And they will help you.

    21) Forgive yourself. I’m writing out all these tips, and I can’t always muster the strength to even stick my nose outside, or
    walk up the stairs, or eat my vegetables. Today, I got outside for ten minutes. I will try again tomorrow. And I will try again the day after that.
    Originally posted by Red_is_Best
    hahah I hate it when they do that and you make some noises like you had it done just last year, then they give you that look, like you are a bad vagina owner and you should take better care of it!

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    Thanks for posting that.

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    • #3
      22) Avoid alcohol/ self medicate. Generally it does not help and can make you much worse.
      PSN- DOOOM666

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      • #4
        Riding always makes me feel better not going crazy fast or wheelie mad. But just that feeling you get that's the good stuff....

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        • #5
          Also if ur on medication for depression and smoking weed...The weed cancels out the effectiveness of medication. It doesnt work in the long run. It may have a short term effect on calming you down...but long term...give it a miss. Excercise....swim...move...give it a try. Please.
          Originally posted by Red_is_Best
          hahah I hate it when they do that and you make some noises like you had it done just last year, then they give you that look, like you are a bad vagina owner and you should take better care of it!

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          • #6
            Strong avatar to post content correlation fast girl.

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            • #7
              Originally posted by Native View Post
              Riding always makes me feel better not going crazy fast or wheelie mad. But just that feeling you get that's the good stuff....
              I agree however I would not recommend it in an emotional state.
              PSN- DOOOM666

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              • #8
                Originally posted by Speed Dealer. View Post
                Strong avatar to post content correlation fast girl.
                ^_^ Been ages since Ive actively put a thread up ...forgot about the avatar...I DO love coffee though.
                Originally posted by Red_is_Best
                hahah I hate it when they do that and you make some noises like you had it done just last year, then they give you that look, like you are a bad vagina owner and you should take better care of it!

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                • #9
                  Just to drive the point home again, exercise. Having energy and the sense of self-worth that's come with getting fitter and stronger has meant a lot to me.

                  Originally posted by Commander Shepard View Post
                  I agree however I would not recommend it in an emotional state.
                  True, but I've found that getting "into the zone" can be really helpful if you can stave off recklessness. Last/only time I rode while upset/self-destructive nearly saw me ride straight into a kerb at >100 after approaching a familiar intersection from an unfamiliar direction in the dark (thought a carpark was the road).
                  Originally posted by Dragunov-21
                  If you want me to answer a question, I want you to ask one that doesn't put words in my mouth that were never there.

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                  • #10
                    On long haul flight use Imodium
                    REPENT MOTHER FUCKER
                    (anarchy in english )

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                    • #11
                      Had depression on and off for years. Honestly the only thing that helped it was sex, meditation and physical labour in any order.
                      Meds did nothing.

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by Fastgirl View Post
                        Also if ur on medication for depression and smoking weed...The weed cancels out the effectiveness of medication. It doesnt work in the long run. It may have a short term effect on calming you down...but long term...give it a miss.
                        Do you have any research to back this up?
                        Might be an interesting read.

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                        • #13
                          Originally posted by Desmo View Post
                          Do you have any research to back this up?
                          Might be an interesting read.
                          Here are a couple of links from a quick search through my resources.

                          Cannabis and prescribed medications • Factsheets • NCPIC

                          Does cannabis interact with antidepressants or lithium? - Health questions - NHS Choices
                          "He who joyfully marches to music rank and file, has already earned my contempt. He has been given a large brain by mistake, since for him the spinal cord would surely suffice." Albert Einstein

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by Sentient View Post
                            Had depression on and off for years. Honestly the only thing that helped it was sex, meditation and physical labour in any order.
                            Meds did nothing.
                            Appreciate that this worked for you, but everyone is different. Medication can work wonders for some people. Although I'd hazard a guess that sex (involves physical labour ), meditation and physical labour would have a positive influence on most peoples' lives. (Depending on who they're having sex with!)
                            Customer: Look, there's no other way to say this, but I didn't come in here to be insulted.
                            Bernard: Well, I didn't ask for the job of insulting you. In another life, we could have been brothers. Running a small, quirky taverna in Sicily. Maybe we would have married the local twins instead of wasting each other's time here in this dump. But it was not to be. So hopit.

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                            • #15
                              Are MAOIs and tricyclics prescribed much anymore?

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